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Wednesday, March 27, 2013

Zero Dark Thirty...a review...


OK, so I stayed up late and watched Zero Dark Thirty (because I'm cheap and didn't want to keep the Redbox for more than one day)...**SPOILERS**

I am STILL processing this film.  I haven't changed my mind on torture, including waterboarding.  It's unequivocally wrong and should *not* be used by a democratic nation. Period. Plus, used on men engaged in a jihad??  Just gives them a bigger feeling of going out a martyr, tortured and crucified for their "cause"...those types are even less likely to crack under such treatment...they crave it as they feel it gains them higher glory in the afterlife.....it seems as if the most basic CIA interrogator would know that, not to mention one with a PhD in the stuff.  

But on a base, visual level, the scenes made my stomach lurch and I almost lost my dinner; it was a very, very dark portion of the film and I was terrifically glad they didn't linger on it and that it was over soon.  Perhaps they thought the overlay of 9/11 audio of victims during the beginning would make us feel some sort of righteousness over treating alleged 9/11 co-conspirators this way, but it didn't work.  Big fat fail. And I felt it was reaching, just a bit, into the no-no land of exploiting those victims to garner support for a knowingly bad agenda.

The rest of the movie, I kept trying to get "into it"...I wanted to feel that blind American patriotism when the end came and I could cheer, "We got 'em!"  But I kind of held my hand over my mouth the *entire* time, trying not to vomit or cry out.

My immediate gut feeling when the credits began to roll was that I had just watched the most clever piece of propaganda ever produced by Americans.  I still get that feeling the next morning. There are oodles of questions that still don't have answers...

Where is his body?
Where is unequivocal proof that the man supposedly killed was Bin Laden?
Why was half the participating SEAL team killed just a few months after the mission?
How was this so quickly declassified as to allow the publishing of a book and the making of a movie?  Al Queda is still a live, practicing entity...shouldn't all of this be classified?
How did this vindicate the deaths of Americans citizens killed on 9/11, and why did none of us feel that glorious feeling of "winning" when word of his death came out?
Why wasn't he given a trial?  Just like the Nurembourg trials, shouldn't even the worst global offenders be given the right to a trial for their crimes against humanity?


None of these questions were answered for me by this movie; rather, many, many more deeply disturbing questions were raised, namely, why on earth was this movie ever allowed to be made?

Another point that was kind of floating in the back of my head the whole time was that this movie & its actual true story could be held as some kind of feminist achievement...a woman brought down the leader of a global terrorist group (and one who hid behind the religion of Islam...ohhh, the irony). While technically correct, it didn't do that for me. It made me wonder where this woman is today. What's she doing? What's your next career move after catching and killing Bin Laden?  Why was so so intent on killing him instead of capturing him and giving a trial? Don't get me wrong- she fought an overwhelmingly male organization, clawed her way to get some respect and a foothold in a man's world, but at what cost? To use and grow accustomed to torture? To see your friends killed? To have nearly no solid evidence of your achievement, only the eyewitness accounts of those there? 


I had planned to watch this movie with my boyfriend.  I'm glad I didn't.  It's most certainly NOT a date movie.  It's most certainly NOT a movie for children, even older ones. I wouldn't allow a kid under 16 to watch this film, and I am extraordinarily liberal about what my kids view. The topics it addresses, sometimes very visually, are absolutely, positively inappropriate for children.

I'm glad no one made a movie like this after World War II. Vietnam survivors made Full Metal Jacket and Platoon to f*& with our heads about that war, and I'm afraid Zero Dark Thirty is going to join those ranks with this war.

Do I recommend?  As long as you view this with the full knowledge of what you're about to see, if you already have pretty firm opinions on torture, detainee treatment, the Iraq War, 9/11, and Bin Laden, and if you have a pretty strong stomach (there's not a lot of gore- there's a lot of psychological brain-play). Otherwise, pass it up and watch a film more geared for entertainment, not propaganda. 

Wednesday, April 11, 2012

Raising kids in a recession...

"Even before the recession, that was more or less true. It's the dirty little secret of every middle-class person in their mid-thirties: Everybody's parents helped them out. Who do you think is paying for all those summer internships? How many new parents do you think actually have enough money for a Bugaboo stroller, let alone a down payment on a first home? And if you don't have a mom or dad who can help with ballet lessons for the kids or family vacations, God help you."

I can identify...my kids can't go to ballet lessons, or any other lessons for that matter, because I don't think I should go beg MY parents to pay for those things. Would they be nice to have? Sure! I'd love my kids to have those opportunities. But we can't afford it. Period. And ask my parents to foot the bill for my vacations? O_o. Seriously? Down payment on a home? Seriously? No, we can't afford vacations or a down payment on a home.....and we live with it. We live with thrift store clothes, ten year old cars, and long afternoons in the backyard with a sprinkler because that's the lot we're given. My husband and I both are vets, hard-working and thrifty, and we can barely scrape by. If we want something, we save a long time for it (like the facelift on our back porch, which was still done with LOTS of thrift store finds and repurposed stuff- and we felt it was a worthwhile investment b/c that's where we'll be spending our "vacations"). And we're still expected to pay on our friggin worthless student loans. Logan's starting his master's next month...will that help him find work? Maybe. Maybe not. And then it will be the most expensive gamble we've ever taken.

Yeah, it can be a crappy life. It's not like the ones we're promised in the "American dream". I have to tell my kids no ALL the time, to lessons of any kind, sports teams, name brand clothes, musical instruments, even most toys. They've learned to play with sticks, rocks, sand, random stuff in the yard, and the older generations (the ones whose kids had ponies and go-carts) tell me, "That's great! It'll build their imaginations!" Yeah, screw you. How can I look at my son playing ball in the yard and recognize he MAY have a great talent but we can't afford to put him on a measly Little League team to develop that talent. Wait for Fall Ball, son, it's free. Play with the other poor kids and have games against the other poor-kid teams, cause that will really hone your skills. I know you can fire a fastball hard enough to pop a board off the fence at age seven....but sorry, your talent has to wait until we can afford it.

We try really, really hard to make smart financial decisions. I feel guilty for paying for the good shampoo that doesn't make my hair look like fried straw like Suave does. Is that the American dream? For two people with college degrees?
And it's not going to get better. I've learned to be thrifty with my eyes closed...cheaper groceries, cheaper clothes, all thrift store, all repurposed, grow your own vegetables, cut meat out of your diet except once a week....and this is how I raise my kids. Am I to tell them to aim for college? Should they even go to college? It's a whole new frontier and we're expected to swallow the fact that we'll NEVER achieve the American dream while learning and inventing a whole new way of life and teach it to our children.

Hey, I'm not trying to be dramatic. I've read "Angela's Ashes"....I know we're not starving to death or having our children die of disease in our arms. I get it. But this isn't the life I was promised, either. If I worked my butt off to get a degree, if I served my country, then I should have a decent life and my children, who sacrificed YEARS of their childhood without their dad while he was continually deployed, definitely deserve a better lot than this.

Instead of giving Congress raises, give veterans raises. Give veterans bonuses. Give teachers, doctors, public servants raises and bonuses. Give them loan forgiveness. Give them a wage that will provide them and their families with a decent lifestyle, not scraping by and denying their children everything.

Read more: http://www.esquire.com/features/young-people-in-the-recession-0412-3#ixzz1qzXdsDWf

Monday, February 6, 2012

Another day of prepping for Dining Out For Life! Click here: http://ping.fm/4dV5f -mrichard@accessaids.org for info!

Saturday, February 4, 2012

Cool moment when you get a package and it's a super cool homemade gift (that I'm currently examining to replicate).Thanks Jennifer Alford!!!
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Logan's off to work on floats for the NATO parade, so the kids and I are cleaning and laundry-ing. :)

Friday, February 3, 2012

Yum Sassi Cakes' tiramisu and a glass of wine....mmmm, perfect. Going to miss Katie but happy that she's getting ready to start a fam!

Thursday, February 2, 2012

P.S. Volunteer Committee meeting for Hampton Roads Pride tonight- 7:30 pm, Borjo Coffeehouse at Monarch Way and 45th. See you there!
Beautiful day-another day to do what's right! Want to get involved? http://ping.fm/IxLKi

Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Just shoot for simplicity. When the slate becomes dirty, wipe it all clean & keep on truckin'.
Beautiful morning...I definitely got to enjoy every minute of the sunrise since I woke at 5 am and wasn't able to go back to sleep...O_o.

Monday, January 30, 2012

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Sunday, January 29, 2012

So lucky to have such wonderful friends....it's been a long day, but so very rewarding in SO very many ways. blessed.

Tuesday, December 22, 2009

New York Trip 2009

OK, I want to make sure I remember everything because this was such a good trip...I had a complete and total blast, and the kids did too!

We got in NY late Friday night and rode around a bit looking at lights in the city...we checked in the hotel, which was much nicer than last year (had 2 beds so we weren't smushed up like Swiss Family Robinson all packed in one bed and a SPECTACULAR view of Manhattan), and quickly fell asleep. We woke up early and decided to hit the Museum of Natural History first. Since we only got through 2 floors last year, we dedicated a whole day to it this year...the place is just massive! We started in the basement level, which is where we entered off the subway, and worked our way up. We got there a little after nine, and we stayed there until almost 2 o'clock! The kids were AWESOME...I didn't think they would last that long, but they all loved it. We snuck into a little theater showing a short film about mammals (narrated by Meryl Streep, no less), and all took a little 15 min snoozer so we could continue on...that was on the second floor out of five.

As we were leaving the Museum on the Central Park side, a man was walking ahead of us smoking a cigarette and I saw what I thought was a cigarette ash flutter through the air towards us. I even said aloud to Logan, "Hey, I wish that were a snowflake," to which Logan replied, "Look up! It IS snowing!" It wasn't bitter cold like last year, so we sat on a bench in Central Park and ate hot dogs from a street cart in this beautiful, lazy snow and it was perfect. The kids were being so good, and it was just so pretty. Then we hailed a cab to take us to FAO Schwartz, but he didn't speak English very well. We tried "toys", "toystore", and, since we were both under the impression that store was in or near Times Square, "Times Square toystore?". He nodded, "Aahhh, yes, Tim Sqwaaar!" And so we paid the guy fifteen bucks to take us to the Toys R Us in Times Square, which was INSANITY!

The people were shoulder to shoulder and I really feared for the kids at points. Since we promised them we would get them something and yet toys were out of the question in that crushing crowd, we ducked into the Candy Land shop instead and got sweets for everyone and go out of there! I ended up half-carrying Grayson and Callie after a particularly huge, rude, sweaty man almost crushed them in the crowd and I nearly got into a fight with him. It's a store FOR children, for God's sake, and yet everywhere I looked, parents were carrying even large, older kids because it wasn't safe for them to walk!

I digress.

We burst out from Toys R Us into the center of Times Square in a magical snowfall. The kids looked up and held their hands up, and Logan and I looked around for a Starbucks to refill our tanks. We found one a short block later and I stood in line while Logan entertained the kids by the window, which I noticed he's getting very good at. The kids balanced on the foot rail with their hands above them on the thin counter, and Logan let them roam within a safe perimeter away from the door and other customers. I ordered a couple of white mochas and, while waiting, saw one of the grossest displays of inconsiderate rudeness yet....four obviously wealthy young women ordered hot chocolates and when presented with their drinks, sipped them, crinkled their fake noses and botoxed lips and said, "Oh...my...God...I think, hahaha, I think I meant to order a mocha!! Oh, my God, that's toooo funny! Can I, yeah, actually, can I get a mocha instead?" So about ten people were crammed in the receiving line at this tiny Starbucks with more coming in to order by the second and these airheads were laughing snottily and comparing obviously real Hermes and Cartiers. No doubt they were laughing at all us shmucks sporting our Old Navy fleece scarves and hats, but I laughed to myself knowing full well a polar fleece is much warmer than some silk/cashmere blend scarf thing that only serves to advertise wealth...and during a recession!

Finally we got our drinks and headed out, but by then the snow was picking up and was now gusting and flying in heavily. We gave it a moment of discussion and decided to go on to the hotel and take a nap while the snow blew and come back later that night to see the tree at Rockafeller. When we woke from our little nap, however, the snow was blowing sideways outside our hotel window and we could barely see across the street, much less the Manhattan skyline.

*Interesting side note: at this time, I took the opportunity to Google the name of the movie studio across the street from the hotel, which ended up being where they filmed the Sopranos, Sex & the City, The Devil Wears Prada, and many other movies, shows, and commercials! So neat!

We hunkered down that night, ordered a pizza and endured the seemingly endless torture of young kids trapped in a hotel room. Grayson and I went on a couple of walks of the lobby to pass some time, and we tried to find something decent on TV in a hotel that only supplied Cartoon Network in the line of anything animated. Finally the kids fell asleep and Logan and I worried about being trapped in New York.

I woke early...my internal alarm goes off around 5:30, so I turned the news on quietly. Apparently this storm had dropped over a foot, almost 2, of fine powder snow...no ice, no slush, just powder. So it was fairly easy for the plows to clear the road and get everything back running. By the time we left the hotel around 10:30, we had no problem getting transportation. After a quick train ride in, we began our venture at the Statue of Liberty. Now, I had called ahead from the room and was assured that they were open and were running ferries. So we trek a few blocks, dragging poor John in the stroller through inches of soft snow, and find that they are, indeed, not running ferries. Mom (me) was angry. But Logan, always the optimist and always hungry, raised my spirits and insisted we find a little place to eat and warm up. So we found a little place called Spin Cafe right off Wall St and had some fantastic pasta, a big dish of warm stuff with potatoes and all kinds of good stuff, which filled our bellies and warmed our spirits for the day. We ventured out with fresh vigor and hiked a few blocks down Wall St until we found Ground Zero, another spot on our hit list. We signed up for the tour and took the kids though the museum, but they are still too young to grasp what's going on. I got a little frustrated because they kept running amuck in this solemn place and Logan wasn't stopping them much, but he pointed out that if he tried to control them, then they would turn into screaming messes, and he was right. So we took a little walk around the surrounding neighborhood until our tour started, and then the tour took about an hour and a half, most of it inside at the World Financial Center.

We had a family pow-wow after the tour, and the kids and I really wanted to go to Chinatown. After consulting a security guard at the WFN who said it was only "about eight blocks away", we set out on foot, confident we could hoof it. Over twenty-five blocks later, we were feeling lost and confused, so we stopped again and asked someone. They said to stop going North and take a right and head East and we would find it, and sure enough...we walked a few blocks, turned a corner, and faced a dead duck hanging in a window.

We walked through Chinatown, Callie haggled herself into a cute set of silk kimono pajamas, and we resisted every purveyor of stolen goods on Canal St! Finally, we popped into this tiny restaurant with deep golden fried ducks hanging by their poor necks in the front window and had some wonderful roast duck lo mein, fried rice, chicken, tea...all kinds of wonderful! Callie even tried to use chopsticks, but I caught her simply stabbing pieces of chicken on the end of the stick and eating it kabob-style. The waiter sat down with us and helped us feed the kids and everything! The lady behind the register kept smiling and staring at John until she couldn't resist any longer, came out from behind the counter wiping her hands on her apron, rubbed his head and finally crouched to hold him. The kids were in awe of these people who look so different and talked this fast, confusing language, and the shopkeeper and his wife were in awe of our funny, confident kids who didn't mind to show off for a stranger or two. The kids were grinning and putting it on.

We headed back out into the snow and took the crosstown train to Herald Square....you guessed it....Santa Clause at Macy's! The kids were just about to wiggle out of their pants with excitement! Macy's had an incredible setup... intead of just waiting through one long, horrific line full of kids, you waited on a twisted path through the North Pole. It was beautiful, magical, and I found myself even being caught up in the moment! By the time you get to see the big man himself, you are so mystified and excited it's hard to take it! John couldn't take it.... as soon as he saw Santa, he backed into an elf, then sat down and cried. Callie went first and told him she wanted a princess Barbie, and then Grayson went and very seriously discussed with him how good he was and how he wanted a Hot Wheels something or other. Santa was sweet and jovial and took pictures with the kids...and then it was over! It was a wonderful experience, and one the kids are still talking about!

It was going on 8:00, but we had promised Grayson he could see the Rockafeller Tree at night so he could see it all lit up, so we walked the ten or eleven blocks over, came around a corner, and it rose up from between two buildings like a mirage. Callie didn't see it at first, so we pointe dit out and then laughed till our sides hurt when her mouth literally dropped open and she stared at that tree with those lights glistening in her eyes....I don't think so long as I live will I forget that face. Pure childhood wonder.

We ALL passed out when we got home after walking the entire south end of Manhattan in a foot of snow, but it was that kind of good tired...sore muscles that say you really did something today.

I awoke first, again, and got up quietly to shower and start packing. I had an idea, but I didn't want to get the kids' hopes up. So I whispered to Logan when he woke up, and he nodded and started helping me pack. We got everything in the car, checked out, and started driving..but towards Manhattan instead of away. We parked in this garage next to Battery Park and ran to check if the ferries were running, and they were! We got to take the ferry out to the Statue of Liberty, which was fiercely cold but the kids were over the top with excitement. We ate a bite there on Liberty Island and then walked around Ms Liberty herself, snapping photos and trying to keep Grayson from getting arrested by security for repeatedly trying to run up to the base of the building.

The ferry back was even colder, but we discovered John's funny face when you asked him to "show me your teeth", and he got another Grandma in this sweet older Brazilian lady sitting next to us who couldn't speak two words of English but had that knack of clucking to babies and chucking them under their chins until they giggle down to a perfection. We got back, ran to the car, paid an outrageous FIFTY DOLLARS for the priviledge of parking for two hours and eighteen minutes, then got on the Turnpike and outta there!

The GPS took us down 95 on the way home, so we took a tiny detour through the city in Washington....we drove by the Capitol Building, the Washington Monument, the Mall, White House...all that, and got home around midnight. Logan drove the whole way, poor thing, and still had to get up and go to work today.

This was one of the best family trips I can think of. Logan and I fought before we left, so maybe that got all the tension out before leaving. He was great during the trip and we had such a good time....as usual, I can't wait to go back next year and see perhaps Midtown and up into the Cloisters and some on the northern end of Manhattan!

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Continuing on Diet

One thing I have noticed about this diet is if you skip a meal you will be super tired, so it's a bit difficult with my schedule. Usually eating a protein bar or some nuts will get my energy back up for a bit but not long-term, so I am thinking about adding my diet/energy pills to the mix to keep up my energy.

Other than that, I like the food ok...getting used to it, but also gearing up for the holidays next week and the whole Thanksgiving grub...hmmm, it will be hard!